Government supporting marriage

Keep paying your taxes, Phil - don't know that mandate will take off however..!.

koshkha wrote:

Quick question almost guaranteed to offend but not intended to.

Wormy, Brat - why did you choose to have a kid and not get married? It's your choice, I respect that but surely there's no commitment stronger than having a kid together (shouldn't be anyway) so why stay unmarried?

(or does wormy have a mad ex-wife in the attic?)

Like wormy's pal who's marrying a girl he met a few months ago, I got married 5 months and one day after I met my husband despite living at different ends of the country for the next 9 months. I knew he was 'the one'. I realise that's not normal but I just don't get WHY people don't get married but DO have kids.

To me there's always that little element of people 'keeping their options open' which surely isn't the right way to bring up kids (i.e with one eye on the door).

OK, you can all shout at me now.

Bit strange really but we wanted to get married and have a baby and the baby just came first and we booked our wedding yesterday It was always the intention to get married and we were engaged and planning our wedding when I got pregnant so having a baby first wasn't really an issue for us, and we have been together 6 years so were obviously not the type to rush things and this way Caleb will part of our wedding which will make it all the more special for us.

Excellent. Good for you.

When's the wedding and are we all e-invited?

lol, invitations by e-mail Booked for 15th August 2009, ages away yet but some places even booked up till 2011

Saw you had booked your venue from your message on Facebook Lisa, where've you picked...

And it takes 2 years to save up for the damn thing, the venues two and a half grand alone

(again not a dig, honestly)

People will spend X thousands of pounds on a wedding, most of the time saving up, but need the state to fund a baby. hmmm

(yup, again, is really an observation overall)

Yeah I really do understand your point. although it REALLY helps, I still know we could cope without the government help, and as I said we only get real basics which everyone can have (if you earn under £58k).

I do sometimes wonder how people, who you read about in the papers, are found to be paid £30k a year in benefits, how do they get so much!?!

drewboy wrote:

(again not a dig, honestly)

People will spend X thousands of pounds on a wedding, most of the time saving up, but need the state to fund a baby. hmmm

(yup, again, is really an observation overall)

Sacrifices will have to be made for us to be able to save this money I can assure you !!