Naming in general.

Thingywhatsit wrote:

I actually thought about it and edited Art's posting. I would not want to get in the way of him doing a darned good review

Don't worry about that he has never written a "darned good review" in his whole life so he is not likely to start now.

atticusuk wrote:

Thingywhatsit wrote:

I actually thought about it and edited Art's posting. I would not want to get in the way of him doing a darned good review

Don't worry about that he has never written a "darned good review" in his whole lfe so he is not likely to start now.

He's got a point you know.

atticusuk wrote:

Thingywhatsit wrote:

I actually thought about it and edited Art's posting. I would not want to get in the way of him doing a darned good review

Don't worry about that he has never written a "darned good review" in his whole life so he is not likely to start now.

That was Angus, jeeez it was never going to be a good review, he has put pressure on me now

Are the gloves off then?

Then excel yourself Art. Make it a review that is exceptional instead of just being rated exceptional as a tribute to those who have left but are still in your thoughts.

Just making it VU would be a step up for him.

Angus wrote:

Are the gloves off then?

Ha Ha, reminds me of a commnt left on someones review saying the gloves were off.

Response was something like, well if the gloves are off you might actually write a good review for a change.

I read that too. Very clever reply.

I think naming is, and always will be a grey area and ofr me it is all about using a modicum of common sense. I would think positive naming is surely no bad thing although I would think out of respect talking about someone who is not a member of the forum should only be done with their consent. However, simply naming them in a list such as in a "Where are they now?" is harmless and as such in my mind should be perfectly acceptable. After all a sensible bit of moderating should easily be able ot control anything approaching personal digs. For me it is no different to a "Do you remmeber this TV programme?" thread.

If we allow a "Good writers" thread without the express consent of the writers concerned then surely positive naming should be acceptable?

I can see what you are saying, but the no naming rule stands. The other forum has a thread where people can reminisce and I feel a list of names of people benefits no one and would be discussed. If I allow naming in this manner and (here you say with permission), how the heck do we get permission from people that have left the site ? and if I then go on to moderate negatives, I get accused of censorship. The site remains a no naming site.

As for new members that merit a look, I think that any new member that produces a good review also deserves to be mentioned and is a different matter altogether since promising writers are the future of sites like dooyoo and ciao and are a rarity.

Thingywhatsit wrote:

I can see what you are saying, but the no naming rule stands.

So I can't for example say that I miss A MEMBER? And I can't say I wonder if A MEMBER had a boy or a girl?

That's the most absurd thing i've ever heard you come out with Rachel.


MODERATED. NO NAMING RULE APPLIES.

Perhaps it sounds absurd, but I am afraid it is the ruling on the forum. You belong to another forum where you can freely discuss this and have tooyoo and private messages. On the forum itself would not be the place since neither are members.

Thingywhatsit wrote:

Perhaps it sounds absurd, but I am afraid it is the ruling on the forum.

Ludicrous! Absolutely barmy in every shape and form.

This was discussed when we started the forum, and was what the members wanted. It still stands.

sugarnspice wrote:

Thingywhatsit wrote:

I can see what you are saying, but the no naming rule stands.

So I can't for example say that I miss A MEMBER? And I can't say I wonder if A MEMBER had a boy or a girl?

That's the most absurd thing i've ever heard you come out with Rachel.


MODERATED. NO NAMING RULE APPLIES.

That was totally unneccessary. Do you really honestly think a member would be offended by me saying I miss her? Would a member be angry about me wondering if she's had a healthy baby boy/girl?

Naming and shaming is a no no, but c'mon here.

Busy yourself moderating threads like this instead

https://reviewwritersforum.editboard.com/viewtopic.forum?t=800 If you copy and paste the quote onto Google it leads you directly to the review and therefore is naming AND SHAMING the review writer.

https://reviewwritersforum.editboard.com/viewtopic.forum?t=252 That thread was started on 10th March so it's simple to find the review which it's relating to therefore it's naming someone.

This is the greyest of grey areas and I'm not sure it helps to go over the same points again and again.

Stronger characters can deal with naming but it's when it crosses the line and becomes a witch hunt that the damage occurs.

Also some may feel intimidated on the inside while putting on a brave public front.

Although the no naming rule is flawed I think we have to accept that it is site policy and move on.

tractor-boy wrote:

This is the greyest of grey areas and I'm not sure it helps to go over the same points again and again.

Stronger characters can deal with naming but it's when it crosses the line and becomes a witch hunt that the damage occurs.

Also some may feel intimidated on the inside while putting on a brave public front.

Although the no naming rule is flawed I think we have to accept that it is site policy and move on.

I agree, you won't be able to please everyone all the time so we have to realise a rule is a rule and abide by it. Can't be that hard can it? Anyway if we slip up it will be moderated and that's what they are there for isn't it?

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That was totally unneccessary. Do you really honestly think a member would be offended by me saying I miss her? Would a member be angry about me wondering if she's had a healthy baby boy/girl

To be truthful with you yes. I have also moderated the posts you pointed out and will moderate any that come to my attention. Supposing the person in question had had a baby that died at birth. This is not beyond the realms of possibility, and I do not think it appropriate to discuss people.

tractor-boy wrote:

Although the no naming rule is flawed I think we have to accept that it is site policy and move on.

Then threads like this one https://reviewwritersforum.editboard.com/viewtopic.forum?t=518 should not exist either.

The thread is called PROMISING NEW WRITERS but what if the writers of the reviews just want to express their opinions on a product? What if they don't want the attention of being labelled as a PROMISING NEW WRITER? What if they just want to quietly give their opinions without all the attention that the label PROMISING NEW WRITER would maybe give them? What if they just simply want a quiet anonymous cyber life?

Mind you all of what i've just said is completely irrelevent considering that thread is 3 pages worth of off topic banter.

Thingywhatsit wrote:

Supposing the person in question had had a baby that died at birth.

Well i'm sure she'd be happy that I was still thinking about her rather than angry at me for wondering if she'd had a boy or a girl. I should know for heavens sake. Mine died at 35 weeks. You're scraping the barrel now.

No I was unaware of that and am sorry for the implication.

Thingywhatsit wrote:

No I was unaware of that and am sorry for the implication.

If I wasn't so thick skinned your comment about a dead baby would have been more offensive than my comment regarding a healthy baby.

This whole question is being discussed in the admin room and we will make a decision soon. I apologise if my posting caused alarm. I was trying to demonstrate how harmful even the most innocent of postings can be personally. I have amended the postings shown to me in this thread as being "naming" and if any more are found that are of the same nature, please alert moderators or admin so that something can be done about them.

My review is just about members I have known and who brought a bit of fun to the site. I certainly didnt intend to cause any trouble by it...I know certain naming can be harmful but I certainly do not and will not cause any distress to any past member...As I say the review is a fun review about people that used to be fun....In case you have forgotten what fun is I will spell it for you F U N , try and have some, take it easy and have a good Monday one and all